"Does it feel like your relationships never work out? After a breakup, do you spend most of your time dwelling on what the other person did to cause it, rather than reflecting on yourself? This book will help you identify the self-protective behaviors that keep you from building the intimate, lasting relationships you truly desire. Using techniques based in the authors' groundbreaking voice therapy-- the process of acknowledging unhealthy patterns aloud-- you'll uncover the real reasons you're sabotaging your love life and learn to quiet destructive thoughts that are rooted in fear of rejection, shame, or jealousy. With this book as your guide, you can approach your relationship with openness and fearlessness--two key ingredients for romantic bliss!"--Back cover.