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001 ocm51818646
003 OCoLC
005 20101118183655.0
008 030228s2003 nyu b 001 0 eng
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050 00 $aHQ755.86$b.A33 2003
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100 1 $aAdams, Jane,$d1940-
245 10 $aWhen our grown kids disappoint us :$bletting go of their problems, loving them anyway, and getting on with our lives /$cJane Adams.
260 $aNew York :$bFree Press,$cc2003.
300 $axiv, 206 p. ;$c23 cm.
500 $aIncludes index.
504 $aIncludes bibliographical references (p. [199]-200) and index.
505 0 $aMay I Talk to You Privately? -- Whose Story Is This? -- When Bad Things Happen to Good Parents -- Our Dirty Little Secret -- The Elephant in the Parlor -- The Kids Are All Right and Other Lies Parents Tell About Their Grown Children -- The Most Privileged Generation in History--Except Theirs -- Great Expectations: Ours or Theirs -- Who's in Trouble Here? -- Making Them Happy Is Not Up to Us -- But Can We Be Happy If They're Not? -- We're Waiting ... and Waiting ... and Waiting -- When We Were Their Age -- Prolonging the Search for Identity--Or Just Avoiding It? -- Excuse Us, But We're Having an Identity Crisis, Too -- Our Other Unfinished Task -- Two Kinds of Parents, Same Kind of Kids -- In Whose Good Time? -- Addicted, Depressed, and Dependent: A Detour or a Final Destination? -- Whose Fault Is It, Anyway? -- The Two Myths of Parenthood -- "I'll Never Make the Mistakes My Parents Made" -- Wrestling Guilt to the Ground -- The Echo of Our Childhoods -- Regret Is Guilt Without the Neurosis -- Why Wasn't I Listening? -- When the Writing's on the Wall -- Good Enough Is the Best We Can Do -- They're Ba-a-a-ck! -- The Never-Empty Nest -- Out of Time and Out of Patience -- Sparing the Help vs. Spoiling the Child -- Lives Without Guideposts -- Leaving No Forwarding Address -- The Challenge of Independence -- Strangled by Our Purse Strings -- "Why Should They Wait Till We're Dead?" -- Codependent on Dr. Spock -- Parents Who Give Too Much -- Maybe We Shouldn't Have Inhaled -- The Perils of Nostalgia -- It's Not the Age of Aquarius Any Longer -- Is It a Symptom or a Disease? -- Family Day at Rehab -- Staying Out of Their Program -- Doing the Wrong Thing -- The Limits of Love -- Paying a Different Kind of Attention -- Denying the Undeniable -- The Real Truth About Gay Pride -- Following the Pied Piper -- An Alternative to What? -- Who Are the Victims Here? -- Forgiving the Unforgivable -- Separating from Their Problems Without Separating from Them -- The Key to Our Survival -- Thank You for Sharing -- Marriages Under Fire -- Blurred Boundaries, Loving Limits -- But What About the Grandchildren? -- Phantom Guilt and Other Crimes of the Heart -- Reinventing Our Lives: The Challenge of Postparenthood -- Reinvigorating the Postparenthood Marriage -- New Wine in Old Bottles -- Different Times, Different Agendas -- Shuffling the Deck for a New Deal.
650 0 $aParent and adult child.
650 0 $aAdult children$xFamily relationships.
856 42 $3Contributor biographical information$uhttp://www.loc.gov/catdir/bios/simon053/2003044830.html
856 42 $3Publisher description$uhttp://www.loc.gov/catdir/description/simon041/2003044830.html
856 41 $3Sample text$uhttp://www.loc.gov/catdir/enhancements/fy0645/2003044830-s.html
856 41 $3Table of contents only$uhttp://www.loc.gov/catdir/enhancements/fy0645/2003044830-t.html
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952 $a368122805$zUBY$bBRIGHAM YOUNG UNIV LIBR$hCore$iLCC$kDDC$ppcc$qcat$u20100804
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